How to think about Emotional Intelligence?

How to think about Emotional Intelligence


These two words, Emotions and Intelligence somehow blended together back in the 90’s but I found in many emotional intelligence training programs that I conducted over the years, that people need training to first begin to understand how these two concepts hang together and what they actually mean.


What is Emotional Intelligence?


The Motion of E(energy) in a powerful way- the emotions are an amazing human gift that is a double edge sword. One side inspires, the other oppresses, so it really depends which level of the emotions we are talking about. There are different levels and qualities of emotions. There are fine, positive emotions, and coarse, negative emotions. It takes intelligence $ strategic thinking combined to choose which ones belong, where they belong and in what potency. High-level Strategic thinking and mental toughnessare necessary to employ some measure of control over the emotions. Emotions can over take a person with their gushing nature, and therefore it takes wide range of soft skills to apply the right kind of emotions, to cause the desirable results in any given human interaction. Emotions are much more powerful than thinking in their immediate effect, and can be likened to torrid water that run fast and furious, as compared to slowly streaming water that could be likened to thinking. It is curious that each need the other for different effects. Thinking to cool down furious emotions and emotions to fire up and motivate dull thinking.  Emotion can be very explosive so it is necessary to exercise caution with the emotion to minimize the point of friction or Flash Point as it is referred to.
Much more could be written about the Emotions but for the purpose of this article we have a base from which we can continue to what would be Intelligent Emotion


We seem to associate the word intelligence with mental thinking & learning but what about emotions…can emotions become more intelligent? And perhaps we need to update and redefine the meaning of Intelligence.
So let’s do it!
Intelligence is the ability to know, to apply, to express and thus to gain more intelligence. It is an ever-growing dynamic that is constantly evolving.

Thus, intelligence in its holistic form has five levels:

1.    To know, 
2.    To apply the new knowledge and thus gain internal intelligence
3.    To master the intelligence internally,
4.    To master externally, 
5.    To keep moving forward

Emotional Intelligence

1.    To know the range of Emotions that we as human beings are capable of having
2.    To develop and rediscover natural sensitivity and compassion for others and practice them effectively
3.    To start exercising internal conscious control upon what Emotions we want to express and why. 
4.    To realize that the E-motions are a powerful tool in human engagement and employee engagement training, and to use that tool in a natural, team building, positive thinking way, that makes people feel at ease about each other and their work environment. 
5.    To never think we know it all and to keep evolving in the territory.

Finally, in the context of corporate training, Emotional Intelligence is a key factor in motivating and inspiring the work force to the next level of teamwork unity, where people are excited to take ownership and do the extra, not just perfunctory.

It is the ongoing wish of every leader or manager that I ever knew to have workers who give extra merit and take personal ownership and responsibility. The question is, however, do they understand that unless they improve the level of emotional intelligence of their work force people will never give more than just bare minimum.
In my seminars people will get the fundamental emotional intelligence tools that will make them much more effective in their interpersonal skills and sensitivity.

In part 2 of this article 'The Impact of Emotional Intelligence Training in the Corporate World' a broader understanding to emotional intelligence training will be provided.

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Eli Harari

The Thinking Coach


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